Many couples are blending families and the adjustment for the child can sometimes be difficult. With all the wedding planning, the children could feel left out and it's very important to make them feel included during the planning process and on wedding day. You do not want children to move forward into the marriage feeling resentful of their parent's new partner.
I've listed some suggestions below that just might help alleviate the "sad face". Consider including a few, if not all, during your wedding planning.
- Allow the child to be involved in a few of the planning meetings and give their opinion and make sure to take them on appointments with you.
- Give the children perimeters, but allow them to select their attire for wedding day.
- During the unity candle lighting or sand ceremony, have the child join you both at the altar and make them apart of this important ceremony.
- Ask the children to come the altar before the pronouncement of husband and wife, and ask the minister to pronounce you as "Husband, Wife and Family".
- During the ceremony, present the children with a loving token like a necklace or bracelet to show them they play an important role in the new family.
- Include the children in the engagement photo session and display not only couple photos during the reception, but photos showcasing the "new" family.
- Have a kids table with goody bags and treats during the reception.
(Photo credit: Rush Photography & Videography | repost from 12/16/12)