Including the Groom

Most people, including the groom, accept the fact that the wedding is mostly about the bride and what she wants on that special day. But I'm seeing more often the groom wanting to play a role in the planning of their wedding day. Heck "Groomzillas" have even surfaced in some cases! But if your groom isn't participating as much as you'd like...I've listed some ideas to make him feel special and join in the planning process.

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1. The funniest thing to see at a wedding reception is a Groom's Cake that reflects the groom's personality or hobby. Make sure to include his favorite cake flavor. I had a groom's cake last year for a construction worker/Bears fan and the cake was a blue and orange hammer. Love it!
2. Have a couples shower in which both the bride and groom are celebrated by family and friends.
3. Present a video at the reception with pictures, set the the groom's favorite music, of the groom's life leading up to wedding day.
4. I just had a bride do one of the most beautiful things I've seen in my 10 years as a planner. She wrote a poem for her groom and had it read aloud by one of her dear friends right before she walked down the aisle. I *heart* that idea!
5. If you are a dancer or singer, do a special tribute to your groom at the wedding reception.
6. When registering, include the groom and let him register for some of those fun man items!!
7. Get the groom a sentimental pre-wedding gift or a massage the eve of the wedding.
8. You both should work with the band or DJ to make sure some of the groom's favorite songs are played during the reception.
9. Have the groom control one aspect of the planning process (photography, entertainment, transportation, etc.).
10. ...and last but not least, invite him to all the planning meetings with your wedding planner even if he's unable to attend.

Until next time...WEDologize!